Recently, I found myself just getting angry over a circumstance that is occurring in my life. I, personally, feel we need get angry over what we feel is unfair, but express it-in a healthy way of course. That being said-let me be clear, it is never ok to let anger get destructive or hurt other people but when did it happen that we have to take things in the moment with gratitude every time?
This is something Cancer Survivors experience on the regular. We are only supposed to feel grateful and not get angry. What exactly do people think will happen? Yes, our lives are being saved by incredible doctors but hell there is so much to get angry about.
Our bodies are attacking themselves, which is a form of self-betrayal you can’t begin to imagine because there’s no one to punish. We are then treated with very powerful drugs, which effectively are poisons that weaken and change our bodies but get rid of the disease. The thing is, we are left with commas, we call side effects that we live with ever after.
I recently found out that there may be a cardio-vascular issue because of scarring from Radiation and yes, I’m pissed. This means more doctors, more procedures, etc, and I just want to get on with my life, so yes, I am a little mad, and you know what? This is healthy!
Life often isn’t gentle, and we need to get real about it. Life often requires strength, and anger can be a great motivator when it is directed properly. I find anger helps me to take action faster, to self-advocate more effectively because it pens the questions that need to be asked. Often it is fuel! Of course, there are times as well it can fester too long.
In those circumstances, we definitely should seek assistance. The important thing, I believe, is to let it out. Tell someone you trust to be understanding. There are times when I have been met with the opposite in this journey. In any journey, remember it is your experience and you are entitled to feel however you want.
So much art has been created in moments of great angst and emotion. Channel it somewhere. For me it usually involves walking and nature. Painting, drawing, writing, singing, dancing- these are also brilliant when we feel it and can’t talk about it with anyone.
Create a specific activity just for that. I once saw the idea of dedicating songs to specific emotions and only listening to it in those moments. I love that idea, what are some of yours?
